Job Hunt Resilience: Bouncing Back from Rejections with 6 Tips!

  So, you know that feeling when you’re a black young lady on the job hunt in  Europe, desperately seeking a demanding role with a fat paycheck? Yeah, it’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack, and you’re not even sure if the needle is interested in hiring you. And no, I’m not playing the race card, but sometimes it feels like it’s the only card in the deck that explains why others seem to have it (slightly) easier.

Picture this: rejection after rejection, and you’re over here thinking, “Am I missing something? Did I forget to attach my charm to my resume?” You’re 110% certain you’d rock that job, met (almost) all the qualifications, and even got an invite to the interview. You leave thinking you nailed it, only to get hit with the “thanks, but no thanks” email the next day. Ouch, right? Been there, done that. A couple of months ago. I stumbled upon this interesting role at an international firm, it sounded like my dream job. The excitement was real guys, and don’t get me started on the labour conditions; it was practically singing my name.

Fast forward to the heartbreak when the recruiter dropped the rejection bomb. I shed a couple of tears – yeah, it was that dramatic. Last time I cried over a job was a decade ago, when I was looking for my very first HR role as a HR assistant. At least I can proudly say I’m not drowning in a sea of tears after every rejection. That would be way too many tears for one person! This one hit hard, because I was sooo convinced that the interview went well. I prepared myself thoroughly and could extensively answer every single question they had. It did not even feel like an interview, because I was confident and it felt as if I was having a normal conversation with colleagues. And that’s why it came as a shock!

Alright, enough of the pity party; let’s talk about picking yourself back up. The blows are the hardest when you’re on the verge of something great. First and foremost, let me just say: NEVER give up. Seriously, even when the universe seems to be having a laugh, God’s got a plan and there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

So, here’s a nugget of wisdom: focus on the process, not the end result. Apply for multiple different jobs – don’t treat one like it’s Moby Dick; you’re not Captain Ahab! In other words, don’t play favorites and definitely don’t put all your balls in one basket. Just search ‘Moby Dick’ on YouTube you’ll find the whole story.

Now, let’s dive into some post-rejection survival tactics:

1. Embrace the Learning Opportunity

So, you didn’t get the job. That’s unfortunate. Look at it as a chance to upgrade your skills. Make sure you ask for detailed feedback so you know what to improve, so that you will be able to succeed during your next interview with your newfound brilliance. Remember a closed door is a blessing in disguise, so don’t be too hard on yourself.

2. Build a Support Network

Share your job rejection stories with your close friends. They’ll either give you a reality check or join you in an epic rant about the absurdity of the job market. This is a good moment to vent and reflect on what happened. And also listen to advice, maybe they have a few tips and tricks that could help you during your next interview. That’s why you should have high-value friendships. These type of friendships are deeply enriching and enhance one’s life providing emotional nourishment, stability and a deep sense of belonging. If you do not have these kind of relationships, attend network events or support groups on Linkedin or Facebook where you can find like-minded people that will be honest, loving and will inspire you to grow.

3. Strengthen Your Skills

Time to become a professional juggler because you’re adding more skills to your repertoire. Attend workshops, seminars, take courses – who knows, maybe next time you’ll wow them with your circus tricks. You having unique skills will make you stand out. Make sure you are unique and aim to become one of the best in your field.

4. Tailor Your Approach

Your cover letter isn’t a one-size-fits-all document, and neither is your approach. I used to be very lazy and send out a very generic cover letters to multiple companies, which proved to be very ineffective. Don’t do this and put in the effort, customize that letter for each job, like you’re crafting a love letter. You know, “Dear Hiring Manager, I am truly great in what I do, you will never regret this, hire me already, and I’ll bring magic to you.” Be confident and convince the company that you are the best person to get the job.

5. Stay Positive

Looking for a job is like being in a rollercoaster. Strap in, scream if you need to, but remember – every loop brings you closer to that dream job. Celebrate the small victories and keep your head up after rejections.

In conclusion, job rejections sting, but they’re not your weak spot. Embrace the journey, learn from the no’s, and keep on hustling. Your dream job is out there – just waiting for you to sweep it off its feet. Need more laughs or some serious advice? Hit me up anytime, I’m here for you!