I can never be jealous of someone else’s success because their wins don’t take away from mine. My mindset is simple: If it’s possible for them, it’s possible for me too. Life is all about seasons, and I’m big on “going through the process.” Success that lasts doesn’t happen overnight. Sure, some things do come easy, but the lessons you learn along the way are what help you keep going. In this post, let’s talk about why the process matters so much.
Life Happens in Seasons — Embrace Yours
For instance, one season might have you traveling
the world and doing what you love, while another might require you to focus on work, family, or other responsibilities. Each one has its own purpose and value. We often compare ourselves to others without knowing their full story. As the saying goes, Don’t compare your Chapter 1 to someone else’s Chapter 30. Imagine a recent grad comparing themselves to a seasoned director with 20 years of experience — it’s just not fair. You need to accept that everyone’s journey is different.
The Waiting Season
When you understand seasons and purpose, jealousy fades. For example, maybe you’re in a waiting season while your friends are reaping their harvest. That’s okay. Where you’re going might require more preparation — whether it’s building skills, growing emotionally, or strengthening your faith.
Even though the waiting season can feel lonely, it’s not wasted time. Instead, use it to grow and understand why it’s happening. If you know why you need to wait for something, it makes waiting much easier and less frustrating. Even in tough times, God asks us to persevere because trials test your faith and produce perseverance (James 1:2-3). Perseverance is what helps you keep going when things get tough, and it’s something you’ll need in every stage of life.In many cases, we get impatient in the waiting because we don’t fully trust God’s timing. However, when you surrender to His plan, the waiting becomes less about frustration and more about preparation.
“When you understand seasons and purpose, jealousy fades.”
Real-Life Examples of Growth in the Waiting
Becoming the Leader You Want to Be
To illustrate, suppose you dream of becoming the CEO of a multi-million-dollar company. Your waiting season might serve as your preparation ground. At this stage, you may not yet possess the necessary skills, such as financial management, effective communication, patience, or decision-making. For example, a junior managerial role during this time might help you build these abilities. You’ll learn from mistakes, understand leadership dynamics, and grow into a resilient leader ready for greater challenges. These lessons, learned in a low-pressure setting, will prepare you for future responsibilities.
Finding Joy in Solitude Before the Blessing
Similarly, you may find yourself in a season of singleness, wondering why you haven’t yet met the right partner. This could be God’s way of teaching you to appreciate solitude, develop self-awareness, and cultivate personal stability.
For instance, the peace you enjoy now might feel like a luxury when your future involves a busy family life. In this waiting season, God is equipping you to cherish stillness, deepen self-knowledge, and lay the groundwork for a balanced future.
Rejection as Redirection
Finally, facing rejection during your waiting season — whether in your career, relationships, or personal goals — can feel discouraging. However, rejection often serves as redirection. For instance, it might teach you persistence, humility, and the value of internal validation rather than seeking it externally. This is especially relevant in today’s social media-driven world, where external validation can be intoxicating. By seeing rejection as God’s way of refining your character, you can embrace opportunities aligned with your purpose, emerging stronger, wiser, and better prepared.
Final Words: Celebrate Others and Stay Grateful
In conclusion, don’t waste energy on jealousy. Instead, be grateful for where you are today and trust that your season is coming. Celebrate others’ wins, knowing yours will happen when the time is right. Catch you on the next!