Let’s be honest: being ‘that girl’ can feel exhausting. Trying to balance motherhood, a corporate career, looking good, maintaining a tidy home, and still having a social life? It’s a lot. We, as millennials, often find ourselves struggling under the weight of these expectations, and that’s the reality.
However, despite the chaos, there are ways to manage life without feeling constantly drained. Through my own journey as a young mom with business ambitions, I’ve learned a few things that helped me stay afloat. Here are some key lessons that have made a difference:
1. Never Shy Away from Asking for Help
I get it—you don’t want to bother people. You’d rather do everything yourself so you can maintain the image of being put together, strong, and independent. But here’s the truth: no one has it together all the time.
Sometimes, the only way to avoid burnout is to ask for help. Whether it’s asking a family member to watch the kids for a few hours so you can get a pedicure and sip on a delicious matcha, or delegating tasks at work, leaning on others is not a weakness—it’s wisdom. Surround yourself with people who genuinely want to support you, and allow them to step in when you need it.
2. Learn How to Say No
As a recovering people-pleaser, I have truly mastered this skill. I used to say yes to everything and everyone, afraid of disappointing people or coming across as unkind. But I’ve come to realize that saying yes to everything is a fast track to exhaustion.
Now, I embrace the power of ‘No.’ I can’t be available all the time, and I’m finally at peace with that. Saying no does not make you less of a friend, mother, or professional—it simply means you are prioritizing what truly matters. Protect your time, energy, and mental well-being.
3. Plan Well & Be Intentional with Date Nights
Life gets busy, and when you’re juggling a million things, it’s easy for quality time with loved ones to slip through the cracks. But relationships require effort and intentionality—whether it’s with your partner, friends, or family.
That’s why I’ve made it a habit to actively use my calendar to plan date nights and meaningful social interactions. There are certain people in your life who deserve priority, and nurturing those connections isn’t just important—it’s necessary. We are not meant to do life alone. When we are mentally and emotionally fulfilled, we perform better in every other area.
4. Pray Your Way Through
Life is unpredictable, and if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that I cannot do it all on my own. As a Christian woman, I recognize the importance of fully leaning on God and seeking His strength daily.
Prayer is what keeps me grounded. It reminds me that no matter how chaotic life gets, God’s grace is sufficient. I talk to Him about everything—the good, the bad, and the overwhelming. Through prayer, I find the peace, clarity, and resilience I need to keep going.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, I encourage you to pause and pray. There’s power in surrendering your worries and trusting that you don’t have to carry it all alone.
5. Have a Mentor
You don’t know it all—and that’s okay. One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned is that everyone needs guidance.Having a mentor—someone who has walked the path before you—can be life-changing.
A mentor is not just someone who gives advice; they are someone who is genuinely invested in your growth. Not a gatekeeper, not someone who makes you feel small, but someone who pushes you to become the best version of yourself.
Seek out mentors who inspire you, whether in your career, business, motherhood, or personal development. Surround yourself with people who challenge you to rise higher.
6. It’s Okay to Take Breaks & Relax
As I always say: burnout is not a badge of honor.
You are not a robot. You deserve rest, just like anyone else. If there’s one thing I’ve learned the hard way, it’s that pushing yourself to the limit does not make you more productive—it just makes you exhausted.
Take the nap. Watch the movie. Book the solo spa day. Resting does not mean you’re lazy—it means you’re recharging. Your body and mind will thank you for it.
Final Thoughts
Balancing it all isn’t easy, and no one has it completely figured out. But by asking for help, setting boundaries, prioritizing relationships, staying spiritually grounded, seeking guidance, and allowing yourself to rest, you can navigate life with a little more ease.
To all the ambitious, hardworking, multifaceted women out there—you’re doing an amazing job. Give yourself grace, and don’t forget to take care of YOU.
Would love to hear from you—what’s one thing that has helped you manage the overwhelming parts of life? Drop your thoughts below!